Thursday, July 31, 2008
On the potty training front I have decided to go cold turkey to panties. The reason is that I think pull-ups are just too similar to diapers. So we tried this yesterday. While we only had one success in the actual potty everytime she peed she would cry. This is actually a positive because now she is acknowledging that she is going whereas before she didn't even blink if she peed in her diaper or pull-up. So keep praying for us. I think she is getting closer to recognizing her body's signals. I just hope we get there soon.
Monday, July 28, 2008
Friday, July 25, 2008
In other news I think the nap is back!!! I don't know if I mentioned on here but for about 3 weeks it looked like Audrey had decided that she didn't need a nap anymore. I was bummed but we established that even if she isn't going to sleep she is going to stay in bed for 90 minutes a day, at least, so that I could get a break. She was napping about 2 times a week but it was such a strange situation. If she napped I got a better break but then she was taking anywhere from and hour to an hour and a half to go to sleep at night. Sometimes not falling asleep until almost 10 o'clock. That's really frustrating. If she didn't nap she went to bed really well but that last 30 minutes before bedtime could be really rough. Well, I am happy to say that so far this week she has napped every day. Falling asleep within 20 minutes of being put down and still going to bed well for us at night. I think I finally have my little girl back. I think life is finally back to "normal" since Brianna's arrival. I am so happy.
So we are going to go and get Brianna's 3 month portraits today. I am going to try and get a picture of the girls together, pray hard! This didn't go so well when we tried it after Brianna was born. Audrey was HIGHLY uncooperative. I am doing this sans Derek so I am praying it works. If not it isn't the end of the world but I would really like a portrait of the two of them. We'll see. Hopefully I will have good news to report. Well, that's all for now because I have to go and iron dresses for pictures.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
And yes she does look a lot like Audrey did.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
UPDATE: Please pray for us because the potty training is going sllloooowww. Audrey seems to have the head knowledge to do it but doesn't seem to recognize her body's signals for when she has to go. We are going to stick with it this time and not go back to diapers. I am confident that within the next two months she will have it down. Pray for patience and the right techniques. She isn't fighting us on it so that is a good thing but we just aren't having a lot of success right now.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
So we started with Dora pull-ups (a big deal to our resident Dora expert) and two choices of where to go potty (also a big deal to our very independent toddler). So about once an hour, sometimes more, I tell Audrey it is time to potty. She gets the choice of where she wants to sit, the little potty chair or the big potty with the insert so she doesn't fall in. She varies it up. Well yesterday she sat on the potty 11 times, which is success because by the end of the day she was doing it voluntarily, and she went *drum roll please* 2 times!! YAY!!! I know that doesn't seem like a lot but that is two times more than she went the last time we tried potty training. We made a VERY big deal out of it and are going to make cookies today to celebrate. Pray that the success continues. I don't care if this takes a while as long as there is success, so far so good! We are going to try actual panties today to see if the security of absorbency is taken away if that will encourage her to go more. Like I said, pray for me.
Friday, July 11, 2008
Before motherhood... I was always on time, in fact I was usually early. I hate being late but it seems impossible to get out of the door and to the place I am going. In fact it is so rare that it actually makes my whole day if I get somewhere early or even on time.
Before motherhood... I could get up 30-45 minutes before I had to leave to be somewhere and actually look exactly the same as I do when I get up 2 hours before I have to leave to be somewhere now... especially if I am by myself getting both girls ready. Forget doing my hair though, that would require at least an additional 30 minutes because I would have to deal with Audrey's interruptions asking me what I was doing and asking for chocolate milk and asking to watch a show.
Before motherhood... I showered EVERY day, without fail, no matter what. No exaggeration. Now I congratulate myself if I shower more than 2 days in a row. Plus, before children, I didn't have to do a lot of thinking before I took a shower. Ever since having children when I am at home alone with them and need a shower a lot of planning and skill is needed. I have to make sure that both children are going to be safe while I am unavailable. I have to make sure that their needs are met before going into the shower. I have to deal with a two year old poking her head in every five minutes to ask me what I am doing. And all of this in time to get out of the house on time for something - well, at least that is the plan at the time.
Before motherhood... I left the house with just my purse and had more than I needed for my outing. Now I leave the house with a purse and a big diaper bag. I have to make sure I have enough diapers for two kids (although hopefully it will only be one soon). I have to make sure there are wipes, changes of clothing, and a myriad of other little items that I deem essential for the diaper bag. I really like to be prepared.
Before motherhood... I looked for parking places as close to the door of the stores I was going in to as possible. Now I look for spots near the cart kiosks so that when I come out I don't have to go far from the car (with two little girls in it) to put the cart back.
Before motherhood... I slept like a rock. I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow and stayed that way till morning and almost nothing would wake me. Nowadays I still sleep hard and deep but the smallest peep from one of my girls and I am wide awake.
And speaking of sleep-Before motherhood... sleeping in meant getting up at 10 or 11 on a Saturday. Now I am ecstatic if I can sleep past eight. And as for staying up late, man alive has that changed. Before motherhood... staying up late meant 12 or 1 am. It meant the wee hours of the morning. But those were back in the days when sleeping in was different too (see previous statement). Now if I can make it till midnight that is SUPER late and I feel it the next day.
Before motherhood... I rarely forgot the things I needed to take with me or get done throughout the day. I was efficient at making lists and those lists always ensured that I got everything done. Now I ALWAYS, no exaggeration, forget something. It doesn't have to be something big, it can be as innocuous as a pair of sunglasses or my water bottle that I filled up and left sitting on the kitchen counter. Or as insignificant as not making the bed before we left for the day even though I went into the bedroom 4 times to do it and each time couldn't remember what it was I went into the bedroom for to begin with. And as for the lists, if I even remember to take it with me, inevitably something will be looked over or I will have forgotten to put it on the list to begin with... because you know somewhere between the bathroom and the kitchen something distracted me enough that by the time I got to the kitchen, where my list is kept, I will have completely forgotten why I even went into the kitchen much less remember that I needed to write down that we need toothpaste.
Before motherhood... I did laundry once a week. I could get it all done, washed-folded-put away, in one day. Now I can get it all done in one day but only if I start the moment I get up and go until I go to bed and that is with making sure that I get things in the washer and dryer as soon as they are done, folded as soon as they come out of the dryer and put away as soon as they are folded. Otherwise it is a week long process and by the time I have put the last article of clothing away, it is time to start all over again.
Before motherhood... all my meals were hot and eaten at normal times (i.e. lunch around noon instead of at 2:30 because you just realized you never ate lunch). Now I have to make sure the girls are taken care of in that department before I am and with nursing it can mean a lot of cold meals. Plus, I have to share everything with someone who "wanna bite, mama".
Before motherhood... I would never have thought about talking about bowel movements and all of its minutiae. Now, however, I find my fellow friends who are mothers and I (and sometimes a rogue stranger) talking at length about all sorts of bodily functions of our children and even celebrating in them.
And lastly, Before motherhood... Derek and I could go on little day trips, out to the movies, out to eat, etc. with very little notice or preparation. We didn't have to think about nap schedules, feeding schedules, children's menus, rest stops for diaper changes, babysitters for adult movies, discreet places to nurse, etc. Plus all the aforementioned gear that goes along with taking a toddler and an infant places.
Now if it comes off as if I don't like motherhood or lament the loss of all of the items listed that is not at all the case. I was just reflecting on the changes that motherhood has brought into my life since being blessed with my first daughter in January of 2006. So I thought, "What changes has motherhood brought that are nothing but positive?. This is what I came up with:Before motherhood... I never had the joy of hearing my baby's heartbeat for the first time.
Before motherhood... I never got the see my baby on an ultrasound and watch her heart beat strong and see how she is growing.
Before motherhood... I never got to feel a baby kick from inside of me.
Before motherhood... I never had the joy of that first smile, first laugh, first food, first crawl, first step.
Before motherhood... I never got to hear someone tell me, "I love you, momma"
Before motherhood... I never got unsolicited kisses and hugs, even if they are messy.
Before motherhood... I never got the joy of watching the peaceful sleep of my child.
Before motherhood... I never got the joy of listening to the endearing renditions of my toddler's songs. Old MacDonald, itsy bitsy spider, London bridges, ring around the rosy, etc. are all of a sudden the best songs in the world when you hear your 2 year old sing them.
I could go on and on (and this has already turned into a much longer post than originally anticipated to begin with) so I will end it with this thought. As much as I have sacrificed and as much work as it is to be a mother - I wouldn't trade it for anything. I am so blessed to have two healthy beautiful little girls and I can't ask for much more than that. So while they can be exhausting, frustrating, irritating and just a plain old inconvenient at times..... I'll take it to the alternative. I think I am going to go kiss my two princesses and thank Jesus, yet again, for the gift he has given me in them.
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Meanwhile VBS is going well, much better than anticipated, and we are 3/5 of the way done. So in just a couple of days I will be able to go back to sleep after Brianna's 6 am feeding instead of having to get up and get going for the day. I am really looking forward to that.
Monday, July 7, 2008
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Fourth of July we went to Jayne and Merrill's (my step-aunt and step-uncle) house out on Panther Lake. It was just us, my family, Jayne and Merrill and occasionally their son, Elliott. While it wasn't as hot as it was last weekend, or even earlier in the week, it was decent out and we all ended up in the water at some point. Audrey LOVED the water and the big back yard to play in. She went into the lake until it was too cold to do so and even then we had to convince her to stay out. We had yummy steaks for dinner and hung out on the deck for a while. Several families on the lake do a little boat parade every year so we watched that. Then we went out on the party barge for a tour of the lake and looked at all the gorgeous homes. Most of them ranging in the six figures. Then we watched the fireworks around the lake. There is a house almost directly across that does a spectacular display every year. Between them and the other houses around the lake we watched fireworks for over and hour before we decided we needed to get Audrey home and in bed, especially since she had had no nap. It was a really long day but a really good day.